The irony is that skip forward a few decades and I have a
large extended family – my gaming family. I have siblings I love, a few that
have driven me nuts, but we are all there for each other at each and every
crisis and life point. Recently, when Jason and I talked about starting a
family, I evaluated a local birthing center. I found myself making sure that
the immediate waiting area for family would support a game of Lords of
Waterdeep or Cthulhu Munchkin. Sometimes my Mother-in-Law talks about ‘family
only’. Not to hurt anyone’s feelings, but when your biological brother does not
invite you to the Christmas party and your friend on 30 years shows up the
instant he finds out you need help picking a lock at your own house at
midnight, how do you define ‘family’?
Now learning how to game late in life and as an only child
has not been without its own challenges. Sharing is something I still struggle
with at times. I have always been unique – a fact I pride myself on. I am
unique for a few reasons: being an only child, having red hair, being a female
comic book nerd in my youth, and knowing Star Wars front to back while still
being able to ‘pass’ in society as my mother calls it… all things that are
rare. I LIKE being rare. I LIKE being unique.
This does not always work in the RPG world. I play with
people I think of as siblings. We think alike. We act alike. This means that if
I come up with something that is cool and ‘unique’… well, Solomon said a hell
of a long time ago that there was nothing new under the sun, and we was right
then and now. Does this sometimes cause me ‘chaos’ as we say in my group? Yes.
Have I learned to live with it a hell of a lot better? Yes. At 30 something I
have learned the concepts of sharing (most things) with at least an air of
grace… and now those in my group can stop laughing at me making that statement.
At the same time, I would love to hear from all of you. Do
you care if you have something who creates things very similar to you, or do
you think that there should only be 1 ranger in a party of 4? What do you
think?
-Madelyn